benawriter Profile


Location: Alabama, United States

Member Since: December 2012

Last online: January 2022

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Last Updated Jun 01, 2016


As I write this my beautiful sexy wife of 29 years lies in our bed with stage 4 colorectal cancer and cancer of the liver. At this point we think it may be attacking her kdineys as well. She is emaciated and lives on tablespoons of food daily. A colostomy at least allows her to eat what she wants. Even though we have been with Hospice a while now, I have dedicated my life to caring for her every need and comfort. She is in no pain right now and is on a low dose of pain medication and nausea medication.

As a slender and petite woman, she lost weight trying to cure whatever it was that wracked her body and when she finally saw a doctor and had surgery, the tumor was too large to operate on. Chemo and radiation dropped her weight 25 pounds while on a liquid diet until she was so weak she could not endure any more chemo. It was her choice to end treatment after weeks of nausea and severe diarrhea and sleepless nights for both of us. There was no hope of recovery and little hope of survival.

one cannot imagine the pain a caregiver goes through watching a loved one literally waste away before your eyes. I am basically responsible for every facet of her life except breathing, a heavy responsibility but I take comfort in knowing that from me she is getting the best personal care and attention she could have.

My advice to everyone is to tell those whom you love that you love them and do it often. Show it as often as you can and appreciate your time together as Trish and I have recently.


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I have some slight background in writing, amateurish as it is, and some (erotica) has been solicited, paid for and published. I enjoy reading/writing when time permits, mostly erotica because of the vast opportunity to be creative. I leave respectful comments for articles that I enjoy, purely of a postive nature and I respect the time, effort and dedication each author takes to present an interesting piece for the reader(s). I enjoy exchanging ideas and accept/answer emails; I'm at -


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