BDSM for beginners

BDSM for beginners

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Status: In Progress

Genre: Non-Fiction

Summary

An introduction and guide to the wonderful world of BDSM. Based on the Author's own personal experience and opinion, BDSM for beginners hopes to be a basic, growing guide for those just starting out, and a reminder of the constant learning curve to those more experienced. Questions, queries and opinions are welcome, but remember we are all adults and entitled to have our own opinion. Just because someone might see things differently, does not mean that they are wrong. Enjoy.

Summary

An introduction and guide to the wonderful world of BDSM.

Based on the Author's own personal experience and opinion, BDSM for beginners hopes to be a basic, growing guide for those just starting out, and a reminder of the constant learning curve to those more experienced.

Questions, queries and opinions are welcome, but remember we are all adults and entitled to have our own opinion. Just because someone might see things differently, does not mean that they are wrong.

Enjoy.

Chapter1 (v.1) - Introduction

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Submitted: December 10, 2016

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This is a sort of re-make of my first book: BDSM for beginners. 


I would like to state and make it known that the things stated in this book are no more than my own personal opinion (exceptions being typical BDSM terms and phrases).


When starting this journey, it's always wise to know some basic things. For example, what BDSM actually stands for.


The word BDSM is a cross over of bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism, Dominance and submission. Of course, there's much more to it than that. 


Bondage, as I'm sure many will know, is the act of binding someone else, be it with rope, tape, or anything you can think of, it's still bondage.  Forms and intensity of bondage can vary from fluffy handcuffs to rope made specifically for tying people up; and alot of people, vanilla or not, enjoy this.


Discipline, naturally, is the act of disciplining someone whom has done wrong, or something they had been told not to for whatever reason. Rule breaking, back talking and rudeness are all wonderful examples here, but of course - discipline is not limited to those three things alone. There are too many things to name that someone might use as a reason to discipline someone else.


Sadism means to enjoy inflicting pain, be it mental or physical, upon someone else. This can range from humiliation and degrading to physical touches such as spanking, slapping and choking. As with the other two, levels of Sadism can and will vary from person to person, so it's not wise to pin the same tail on two different pups. 


Masochism is the polar opposite of Sadism. Masochism means to enjoy pain or discomfort put upon you by either yourself, or someone else. This can often be from physical pain, mental pain and discomfort, etc. Every term will have it's variants and as I have said, mine are mere opinion and the things that I have learned in my time involved in this particular life style. 


Dominance is something, like submission, that is not to be taken lightly. Whilst some may consider people whom label themselves dominant should constantly be treated like they are higher than everyone else, this is not true. We're all equals here: a way of being does not determine your place among others. Dominance is to feel dominant towards others. It is responsibility, and it is knowing how to take care of someone's needs as well as your own. Safety first, guys.


Submission would be counted as the opposite of Dominance, but it is in no ways inferior to being Dominant. It is, as is Dominance, a part of a person (or all of that person) that desires, whether it be admitted or not, to be either controlled or in a small sense be under (but not below, or any less worthy, remember this) someone else: preferably a Dominant person. A submissive is someone who relies on another, more Dominant or not person to satisfy needs and wants, be it sexual or not. 


Whilst BDSM, in it's name suggests that the dynamic is completely sexual, this is not always so. It is in my personal opinion (and some others) that BDSM is a Lifestyle, not something to be kept in the bedroom at all times. Others will disagree with me, and that's okay, but let's try and keep this from being an argument, shall we?


Once you've got the meaning of BDSM itself down, you're on your way to the never ending learning curve. That's an important part of the lifestyle: to understand that you never stop learning, and no one knows everything. 

 


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